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Kyra Member |
posted August 09, 1999 06:36 PM
 
Female 29 2 children -Married HS sweetheart -H cheated after almost 4 years marriage -His affair started while I was pregnant with our first child, ended 9 mos later when he was found out. Our child was 7 mos old by then. -We didn't get help after his affair; our marriage has been RoCkY to say the least. -I've resented the hell out of him -H lives 3 hours away 6 days each week -H has not trustworthy; possibility of other affairs! -Had 10 year anniversary last Oct'98 -I started emotional affair last Mar'98 -Emotional affair turned physical -I ended the affair a few months ago on my own when H made an effort toward me, our marriage and our family. ------------------ [This message has been edited by Kyra (edited August 09, 1999).] IP: Logged |
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RWD Member |
posted August 09, 1999 06:50 PM
Male age 43, married for 15+ yrs. 2 children, 12 & 8 discovered w affair in mid may she moved out 4th of july weekend to hotel om paid for. moved into apartment following week with om following week later.they already have joint checking account. should be hearing from her lawyer this week. IP: Logged |
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Kat1 Member |
posted August 09, 1999 07:14 PM
Female Age 37 Married 16 yrs, mostly together 20 Two children 6 and 9 Betrayed H's affair with co worker started last June and was disvovered the first week. Didn't end on discovery, rather went on and off until September. Heavy withdrawl anytime it was off during that time. Ended completly in October, no special withdrawl symptons then. Recovery since then, that really felt much better in December. Things are great now, and we intend to work as hard as it takes on our marriage to keep them that way. Kat IP: Logged |
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Rutger Member |
posted August 09, 1999 07:25 PM
-Male -Age 31 -Married 5 years this month -W had a One night stand on July 19 with a friend who she still talks to -Seperated Since she told me the morning of July 20 -Currently she wants nothing to do with me.. or him she says.. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Chris (CA123) Member |
posted August 09, 1999 07:40 PM
-Male -38 years old, Wife 37. -Betrayed -Married 19 years, 2 daughters, 13 & 8. -Found out Christmas night Wife had affair 10 years ago. -Found out 26 Dec she had an affair Aug-Dec. -She went on vacation 1-9 Feb & visited OM -Wife moved across US with wankboy on 17 Feb. No divorce or reconciliation in sight yet. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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suse Member |
posted August 09, 1999 08:09 PM
female age 43 Married to DuncanMac 21 yrs, together 24 2 boys aged 6 & 11 betrayer - 6+ yrs. into marriage. Long, intense affair. Depression. betrayed - Aug-Oct '98. H met OW on internet. Big wake-up call for us both. I think we're finally getting it right! We've had counseling on & off since '85 (my affair got us in there). IP: Logged |
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Murphy Member |
posted August 09, 1999 08:35 PM
Male Age 46 Betrayed Married 22 yrs W had an"office affair"last summer with man 11 yrs younger than her.Decided she was in love with him,and moved out.Changed her whole personality.I have'nt seen or talked to her in months-plan B?Probably will get a divorce.I feel the need to move on. IP: Logged |
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MEDIC238 Member |
posted August 09, 1999 08:36 PM
OK I'll bite, Male, 39 Small business owner. I put the company first and above my second marriage and loving wife. Worked long hours and the like. First marriage, Betrayer. First worst mistake I ever made. Was a real a$$hole. I will never take this path again. EVER! Second marriage, Betrayed. Second worst mistake I ever made. Was a real a$$hole. Married for over four years at her start of emotional affair, or so I'm told. We've been together since she graduated high school, ten years ago. She was a virgin. Two great boys I couldn't be more proud of, ages 18 and 14 from first marriage. Current W can't have kids because of Tetrology of Fallot. Bad heart problems would probably not survive delivery. Had the American dream of being secure in old age. I did not realize that I would be alone sitting on Virgina Beach because of my behavior. Finding out too late in life that I was the problem and not the solution. Medic A line from Animal House comes to mind. "Hey ya f*****d up...You trusted us ...Try to make the best of it". Sorry, just feeling very down right now. I miss my Valerie. IP: Logged |
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LA46 Member |
posted August 09, 1999 09:17 PM
-Female -46 -Betrayed -married 25 years -Affair revealed to me April 99, H moved out May 99, I moved to another state July 99. H wants divorce and is probably working on that now. I don't know if he's still involved or not, my guess is yes. H calls our daughter to ask how I'm doing. I've only had 1 conversation with him since July 8th. I'm hanging in there but hurting alot. IP: Logged |
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Lone Star Member |
posted August 09, 1999 09:44 PM
Male -age 29 -betrayed -married 4 years next month -married 3 1/2 years (together 7 1/2 years) when she cheated She broke it off immediately or I would have left. Sometimes still can't believe it really happened. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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love WAS blind Member |
posted August 09, 1999 10:05 PM
competent, lovely woman betrayed (and cyber betrayer) married 2 1/2 years his affair lasted 9+ months before discovery, and MAYBE ended last month..so, 2 years, total. she was a coworker in a bad relationship, and he got her a job with him. he later quit, and though i begged him not to, he hired her again, and ended up living with her for several months without my knowledge. I suspect he still is, but he is claiming he wants me back. still rarely comes home. IP: Logged |
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terri Member |
posted August 09, 1999 10:41 PM
- Female - Age 39 (will be 40 on 8/26) - Betrayed - Together 4 yrs before being married in 1989 - Married 3 years when H admitted first affair (it was already over by then) ... I was in a depressed state during that time period and he accepted the attention of the 1st OW due to believing I didn't love him anymore. - Didn't get counselling and didn't deal with the problems surrounding the first affair (yeah, I know - DUMB!) - Married 9 years when this affair came to light - OW got drunk, tried to physically attack me and then left a message on my answering machine about how she was sleeping with my H. Confronted with this, he admitted it and announced his intention to move out. - I was diagnosed with mild clinical depression, began anti-depressant treatment and began Plan A in October 1998 - H moved out in mid November 1998. - I feel we have been making baby steps forward since then, even though slug apparently moved in with him sometime around or after Christmas. - Most recently, I have been told by a couple of people that my H is miserable in his relationship, and I believe him to be depressed. - Still in Plan A and going strong (likely because he is not living with me), having fun with friends and with H when I have the opportunity - Have become a more confident, secure and healthy "me"... ------------------ IP: Logged |
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sue Member |
posted August 09, 1999 10:53 PM
Female 45 yrs old, married 17 yrs, 2 kids 16 and 13. betrayed H had online internet affair with younger woman Sept to Jan 98. Was planning to leave family to be with her 850 miles away. Upon discovery, he said they broke it off, but resumed affair in Nov 98 . He says they have broken it off, but he continues contact. I have asked him to move out....I am not sure if I can get past it again. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Faith Hope Love Member |
posted August 09, 1999 10:59 PM
Female 39 (a few more days) Married 17 years 3 girls betrayed Kissy face thing lasted about one month Phone contact 8 more weeks Dec 98 - Feb 99 Recovering nicely. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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crazy or what? Member |
posted August 09, 1999 11:48 PM
female 34 married 15+ years 3 kids ages 15 13 and 12 4 mos ago H started internet affair and went to meet her on a vacation he took 3 weeks ago, moved her and three of her kids to the area and is now living in a hotel with her IP: Logged |
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