posted August 11, 1999 12:17 PM         

FYI

- This is the second marriage for both of us; I hate to admit we met via the Internet while still married to others.

- I always believed it wouldn't happen to me!!!!

- Plus, I was a serial adulterer in my first marriage. (stupid, stupid, stupid) I'm amazed my ex still talks to me.

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RobinAnn

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posted August 11, 1999 01:42 PM         

Old college friend & I got reacquainted via internet.... became emotionally attached. Were always very close friends..... but was inappropriate now because we are married.

Suspect H is having an affair... possibly physical..... DEFINATELY Emotional. He denies it. Won't realize that my feelings about his "friendship" are as strong as his feelings about mine. I broke off all contact w/ my friend ..... H refuses to do same (they work together).

H has asked me to move out again.... says he doesn't want to put in any effort toward our marriage. He admits he is being selfish, and that it will get worse if he "tries to work on us". I'm moving out on the exact 7 year anniversary of the day we "officially" moved in together.

posted August 11, 1999 02:39 PM         

Male
Age 13 (mental)
Betrayed
Married 20+ years (W #1)
Married 3 years (W #2, much younger than me - smart, gorgeous, foxy professional woman I'm simply nuts about & who's probably too much for me to handle!)
Cheated on in both marriages
Current W cheated on me practically from the get-go, before we were even engaged (only suspected it then, am sure of it now). Still don't know who OM is. Been in couples counseling w/ her since before we were married. She lied and said she wasn't having an affair, so we're not even able to deal w/ this issue in counseling. Which is unfortunate, because it's the basic issue that's tearing our marriage apart. So my present focus is on "snooping" to find out ID of OM.

posted August 14, 1999 08:05 PM         

female
betrayer
28 years old

posted August 14, 1999 09:06 PM         

-Female, age 26
-Betrayer
-married 1 1/2 yrs, together for 4
-3 children, 8, 6 and 2
-H works a lot of hours, I was very lonely (no excuse)
-had brief affair with married man
-ended affair before it really began I think, confessed to H, now trying to rebuild.
-Still in Withdrawal.
*noteworthy-affair didn't end badly...just we both came to our senses.
-to my knowledge, H has never cheated on me
-Mother in Law has been pushing another woman on H for the last 2 years (before the affair)
That's about it. Please email me if you want to talk.

modemvnd@mcsi.net

posted August 16, 1999 12:28 AM         

Male, 43
Married 22 years
Son 20; Daughter 17 (18 in Nov)
Betrayed.

I never thought it would happen to me, either. We have had our ups and downs in marriage. I neglected W and she had physical affair with married co-worker. My neglect was in part due to her Love-Busters. Affair from 1/99 to 5/99. She ended it. OM did not want it to end and continued to follow her, even to her new employer. He has since left that job. He tried to force her to continue in the affair. She would not have it and told me about it. She was afraid for her safety. I had her tell her employer about OM. Employer was supportive and sent OM away when he showed up that week. This was only about 4 weeks ago.

W hit me with divorce plans week of our 22nd anniversary. I agreed to separation instead, to give us time. Have been in apartment now for 2 weeks. She met with attorney last week to file for divorce. She is emotionally withdrawn and does not want to work on marriage, even though she said ok to separation instead of divorce.

In a nutshell! Both of us are a little nuts now.

posted August 16, 1999 12:29 AM         

Female
~Age 34
~betrayed/betrayer
~Married 11 yrs...together 18 yrs
~2 kids(4&8)
He has been cheating on me since we were in high school. I have only one known proof of H's affair (contracted STD) in May '99. Major problems with communication, drugs and verbal/emotional abuse. I've been in an emotional affair with MM for 14 mos. It is still ongoing. Where is it going? Who knows...

posted August 16, 1999 01:07 AM         

Female
Betrayed
27 years old
H is almost 30
5 year anniversary was in June
6 years together
2 kids
H had an affair in April 99 (with his brother's wife)
found out 1 week later because he told me

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GOD,
Grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change, COURAGE to change the things I can and the WISDOM to know the difference.

posted August 17, 1999 12:15 AM         

Female

42 years young

betrayed (3 shortlived affairs and one long lasting mess)

Married 9 1/2 years

We have 3 children 8 6 5mo

I had 3 from before marriage 25 20 15

OW has H's child 7 1/2mo

Found out shortly after it started, OW moved across US and separated from her H, two years later shes back in the scene, after discovery H gets depressed, suicidal, moody, went from 1 year plan A, am currently in a type of plan B...Its been 4 1/2 years since beginning...

Affair is still in contact mode, I see H to let him spend time with kids/baby....Try being nice... Hugs acceptable for kids benifit, and always on best nicest behavior.

Don't know if anything will ever change, but am busy taking care of the *US* that I have left to take care of..... Me and Kids!!! My question in my mind is.... Was he that good of a husband/Father before all of this???

posted August 17, 1999 07:14 AM         

H and I didnt talk to eachother, his work came 1rst and my friends came first. There was alot of anger and resentment. I became pregnant (very unexpected) and he really withdrew from me. He went away for a week and met up w/an old girlfriend - I found out when he got home, told him to leave, during my pregnancy we slowly got closer. We moved back together when baby was born 3/99. We have such a different relationship - we are much closer than we ever were. I cant believe where my life was 1 yr ago and where it is today.