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 What is the relationship like between a WS and the OP? What everyone should know... (Page 2)
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WilliamJ Member |
posted March 05, 2000 10:09 AM
  
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mickey65 Member |
posted March 06, 2000 01:32 AM
Genie: Glad to hear from you and glad that everything is going so well for you and h. I want to add that my h and I are also doing great! For everyone else that has posted on this thread,, its very true,, not in every case, but most of the time.. I could write a carbon copy of exactly what Genie has posted.. I mean everything, including the similarity in time lines.. Things are really going great for my h and I...and his affair with ow was a very serious one.. Yes, divorce was even discussed, my h even lived with ow, she bought a house around the corner from us last year after my h broke it off with her.. He worked with her too, and still does, but he has changed shifts to get away from her. We are also moving and building a home away from her.. My h said and did some rotten cold and stupid things during the affair. Things that today, he cannot believe he did... He is a better husband now and we have a better marriage than before... although before the affair, we had a good marriage too.. But now, we do not take each other for granted, we talk more, communicate our needs more.. There is a lot that has been learned. IP: Logged |
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Genie29 Member |
posted March 06, 2000 09:25 AM
Mickey, I am so glad to hear that things are gong to good for you and your H too. And I want to thank you for your input on this topic, it always helps to be assured in numbers. Genie IP: Logged |
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SoUnhappy Member |
posted March 28, 2000 04:56 PM
I wish i had the strength that you and everyone else does. My H does not recognize that he did anything wrong with his EA. Feels that if he hasn't put me down, or compared me to her he hasn't done anything wrong. Claims all he was getting was an ego boost from OW. I need to get over the hate i have for him if i am ever going to make my marriage work. IP: Logged |
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bonnet Member |
posted March 28, 2000 07:11 PM
Hi Genie, thank you so much for that. It is all so true. I seem to be in the very early stages of my H coming out of his fog. I don't know if he wants to reconcile, he "seems" to be saying things, and half asking things etc etc, and he IS moving here. He currently lives 1000 miles away, where we used to live. When I found out about his OW, and he made it crystal clear he didn't want to work on our marriage, I moved away to be closer to my family. Now, he has broken up with OW, his choice, and he is moving here, although he says it is because of the children... anyway, enough of me. keep taking care of each other, and thanks again. Jo IP: Logged |
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Is there hope? Member |
posted March 28, 2000 09:02 PM
Genie29 Thank you ever so much for posting this thread. I have been so fearful not knowing how to move on as I've been hurt beyond my ability to imagine and cope this time. In reading your post and the feedback from others, I feel I have the answer to my question...yes, there IS hope! My H is really trying very hard doing all I request of him to do. He has stopped contacting the OW, as far as I can see, he moved out because I couldn't stop from doing LBs but it was at my insistnace not his, he is going for counseling, says he still loves me-never stopped, has chosen to stay with me and had even told the OW that if it ever caused a problem with his wife (me) that their relationship had to end. And so it is doing just that. So thank you for allowing me to see the good I have going for me so far rather than seeing it as an obstacle for my fear. Maybe now I just can move forward. I've printed your post and intend to read it whenever the fear sets in. And to all who have replied...I thank you as well. Your combined efforts here have really shaken me in a good way, and I do mean "shaken", not "stirred!" ;-) IP: Logged |
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TXSupermommy Junior Member |
posted April 10, 2000 03:41 PM
Thank you for your kind words, exactly what I needed to hear today. Last night was horrible!! I lost it on friday with some big time LB's in a plan to "get even with H" (talk about throwing plan A out of the window). I found out about 3 weeks ago and am dealing with so many emotions. But last night my husband said some of the cruelest, ugliest things I have ever heard!!!! He told me I wasn't attractive, that I was as big as a house (I am not exactly as small as I was when we got married after having 2 children) He told me he had his affairs because he couldn't stand to see me without clothes and now that I was not being my "nice little Self" he did not know how we were going to work through this. I feel so horrible, the only confort has been everyone here. I have been on this site all day!!!! I can't believe I even told anyone this!!! IP: Logged |
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