posted June 30, 2001 01:06 PM            

both 33

BS

11 years married

2 years have known spouse before marriage

3 months since "discovery"/Pre-discovery

4+ months total length of the affair

Both EA&PA

1 Affair

Currently in: Plan A / Recovery /for 3 months

Living together

OP is: married

OP is: co-worker/a friend

Has divorce been: discussed

Following principles of: MB

2+ months on the Marriage Builders forums

Very personal… Very optional…
(no need to respond to these unless you think you want to/can help someone)

2 children of the marriage 14 - 9

Who has physical custody? both

Aborted Pregnancy

In counseling? Alone/with Spouse

On medication/anti-depressants?… What kind? NONE

Mid-Life Crisis involved? no

Alcoholism involved? no

Has there been STD as a result of affair? no/unknown

Abuse? no

Suicide attempted? no

Lesbian/Gay issues? no

Anything Else…it's completely up to you…

posted July 07, 2001 08:35 PM            

2. BS53/WS55

3. BS

4. 32 YRS MARRIED

5. 6 years

6. 4/21/01 D-DAY

7. A POSSIBLY STARTED IN FEB OR MAR

8. EA AND SOMEWHAT PA

9. 2 AFFAIRS IN THE PAST 22 YEARS

10. PLAN A BUT GAVE HIM A PLAN B LETTER. STILL LIVING TOGETHER

11. LIVING TOGETHER BUT WS STILL REGULARLY SEES OW

12. OW IS 26 YR OLD SINGLE GIRL WHO WAS ENGAGED DURING AFFAIR

13. OW IS A co-worker

14. Divorce was discussed when H felt he did not want to be married anymore but now cannot make a decision

15. Following principles of: MB

16. Found in April 2001

Very personal… Very optional…
(no need to respond to these unless you think you want to/can help someone)

1. 2 children of the marriage--S31 AND S26

2. NO CUSTODAY NEEDED. THEY MAY NEED TO GET CUSTODY OF ONE OF US

3. NO OTHER MARRIGES OR CHILDREN (THAT WE ARE AWARE OF)

4. NO COUNSELING AT PRESENT OR WORKING ON MARRIAGE IS HAPPENING AT ALL

5. NO MEDS

6. MLC-WS HAS MENTIONED IT SO IT SEEMS LIKE AN ISSUE FOR HIM

7. YES --ALCOHOL IS A MAJOR LB FOR US AND ALWAYS HAS BEEN

8. NO STD

9. NO ABUSE

10 NO SUICIDE

11.NO GAY/LESBIAN ISSUES

posted July 09, 2001 02:11 PM            

1. Female
2. I'm 32 - Spouse-35
3. I'm the Betrayed Spouse
4. Married 5 yrs this Sept.
5. Were close friends for 12 yrs prior to marriage
(platonic relationship)
6. D-Day: Feb 2001
7. According to tel bills: 6 months (Aug 00-Feb 01 )
8. EA (no proof of PA)
9. Only this one
10.Plan A
11.Living together
12.Don't know status of OW
13.OW is Friend
14.No Divorce discussed
15.Following Principles of MB
16.Five months on MB forum

1. Our 4-year old son
2. Both of us have custody
3. No other children involved
4. I read Dr. Harley's books - no other counseling
5. No medication
6. No mid-life crisis
7. No alcoholism
8. No STD's
9. No abuse
10.No suiside attempts
11.No lesbian/gay issues

posted July 09, 2001 02:39 PM            

1.## children of the marriage (Only 1: Our 4-year-old son)
2.Who has physical custody? Both of us
3.Are there Other Children(OCs) involved (pregancy wrt to wayward)? NO / GOD FORBID!!
4.Reading Dr. Harley's books - HNHN, LB....Alone
5.No medication/anti-depressants.
6.No Mid-Life Crisis involved
7.No alcoholism involved
8.No STD's
9.No Abuse
10.No Suicide attempts
11.No Lesbian/Gay issues
12.As far as I know, H has had no contact with OW since D-Day. He's improved in a lot of ways, but I'm still on the lookout. Shows remorse when wrong, and makes up in an acceptable way. Hoping to convince him to read the books with me. Wish me luck!!

posted July 09, 2001 02:41 PM            

1.## children of the marriage (Only 1: Our 4-year-old son)
2.Who has physical custody? Both of us
3.Are there Other Children(OCs) involved (pregancy wrt to wayward)? NO / GOD FORBID!!
4.Reading Dr. Harley's books - HNHN, LB....Alone
5.No medication/anti-depressants.
6.No Mid-Life Crisis involved
7.No alcoholism involved
8.No STD's
9.No Abuse
10.No Suicide attempts
11.No Lesbian/Gay issues
12.As far as I know, H has had no contact with OW since D-Day. He's improved in a lot of ways, but I'm still on the lookout. Shows remorse when wrong, and makes up in an acceptable way. Hoping to convince him to read the books with me. Wish me luck!!

posted July 09, 2001 02:42 PM            

1.## children of the marriage (Only 1: Our 4-year-old son)
2.Who has physical custody? Both of us
3.Are there Other Children(OCs) involved (pregancy wrt to wayward)? NO / GOD FORBID!!
4.Reading Dr. Harley's books - HNHN, LB....Alone
5.No medication/anti-depressants.
6.No Mid-Life Crisis involved
7.No alcoholism involved
8.No STD's
9.No Abuse
10.No Suicide attempts
11.No Lesbian/Gay issues
12.As far as I know, H has had no contact with OW since D-Day. He's improved in a lot of ways, but I'm still on the lookout. Shows remorse when wrong, and makes up in an acceptable way. Hoping to convince him to read the books with me. Wish me luck!!

posted July 09, 2001 03:37 PM            

1. ## children of the marriage- (3) 7 stepdaughter, 6 son, 3 daughter
2. Who has physical custody? I have custody of the two in the marriage. My IL’s have my stepdaughter.
3. Are there Other Children(OCs) involved (pregancy wrt to wayward)? OM has a son the same age as mine.
4. In counseling? With Other…and…Alone
5. On medication/anti-depressants? None.
6. Mid-Life Crisis involved? No.
7. Alcoholism involved? No.
8. Has there been STD as a result of affair? Unknown
9. Abuse? No.
10. Suicide attempted? No.
11. Lesbian/Gay issues? No.
12. Anything Else…it's completely up to you…

posted July 12, 2001 09:31 PM            

Male
I am 44, W is 45
I am the WS
D-day was 3/2001
Off and on A for about 3 months on net, other *flirtings* before this
A was cyber in nature, mostly to fill void
We Plan A'd before I even knew what it was. I cut off all contact after D-day, before finding this site, have had NO contact since, and dont want any. We are currently in recovery.
Currently not Living together due to nature of jobs
OP is from internet
Currently, I am employing the MB rules and she knows about the site, but has not been here yet. I relay information to her on a regular basis. I found the site about two days after discovery.

posted July 21, 2001 08:52 PM            

Age 50 Spouse 27

Betrayed

4 years married

4 years have lived with spouse before marriage

3 weeks since "discovery"/Pre-discovery

2 weeks total length of the affair

Both EA&PA

2 Affairs

Currently in: Plan A 3 weeks

Living together

OP is: married

OP is: Other

Has divorce been: requested by WS

Following principles of: MB

3 weeks on the Marriage Builders forums

1 children of the marriage 19 months

Who has physical custody? still married

No other children involved

In counseling? with Other…and…with Spouse

On medication/anti-depressants?… No

Mid-Life Crisis involved? No

Alcoholism involved? No

Has there been STD as a result of affair? Don't think so

Abuse? No

Suicide attempted? No

Lesbian/Gay issues? No

You will no doubt note the age difference but OM is older than I am.

posted July 26, 2001 04:33 PM            

1. 1 child, under 2
4. His idea to see a counselor, we have attended weekly...going on 4 weeks.
5. no meds
6. no mid-life crisis
7. no alcoholosism
8. no STD
9. no abuse
10. no suicide attempt
11. no gay issues

We met, fell in love, and got married very quickly. He said in the emails that he thought it was a mistake and felt that we moved to fast. He says to me he was talking crazy and that all he wants is me. I don't really know what to believe.