posted February 24, 2000 11:17 AM            

Very Optional

posted February 26, 2000 03:40 PM            

1.) F
2.) 27 & 29
3.) Betrayed
4.) I married my H twice. 1st marriage
lasted 1 year because we were too young
(16 & 18). Married 2nd time for 4 1/2
years.
5.) Knew H 2 years before 1st marriage.
6.) 6 months since discovery
7.) The affair has lasted about 7 months.
8.) Both EA/PA
9.) 2 affairs while married
10.) currently in plan A
11.) Living seperate for 6 months. My H
lives with OW.
12.) OP is married with 2 young children.
13.) Ow worked for the same company but lived
900 miles away. They talked on the
phone daily and my H left me before
ever meeting her face to face.
14.) Divorce filed by me.
15.) Following MB principles.
16.) Reading site since about Sept. 99

Part II

1.) 2 Children (3 & 8)
2.) They children are in my custody but
decided through courts yet.
3.) No other children involved.
4.) In counseling alone.
5.) Anti-depressant/ Effexor XR
6.) No Mid-life crisis involved.
7.) No Alcohol involved.
8.) No STDs
9.) Some verbal abuse on both sides.
10.)No suicide attempted.
11.)No Gay/Lesbian issues

posted February 29, 2000 09:24 AM            

Female
I'm 52, he's 56, OM is approx 45
betrayed
married 6 1/2 years
knew spouse 4 years before marriage
2 months since discovery
affair lasted 4 to 6 months (he says he can't remember when it started, I KNOW his memory, so I believe him)
both EA & PA
only one affair
no plan yet
living together
OW is married
OW is friend
divorce discussed and discarded by both
HNHN
new to forum

No children from marriage. Possibly a midlife crisis. I work out of town, retiring in 4 weeks. Changing from part time wife to full time wife. No STD's from affair.

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I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then.

posted February 29, 2000 02:25 PM            

3 Children: two girls 5 and 9 and son 14
N/A
In counseling/w spouse
no meds
Not sure if she is having a mid life crisis
N/A
No STD's, havent slept with wife in 5 months
No abuse
No suicide
N/A

Wife doesn't know what she wants. She is emotionally attached to this guy now. She has been with me and this guy. So she is attached big time. I asked her about it and she said she never said she loved him, but I know she has feelings for him and she is really confussed. I want to work out our marriage. She has a hard time talking about her feelings and guilt.

posted March 10, 2000 02:37 PM            

1. 2 girls, 4 & 6
2. we both do
3. no
4.In counseling? Not yet, but seriously thinking about it.
5.No meds
6.Mid-Life Crisis involved? DUH! I believe so.
7.Alcoholism involved? yes, he drinks and blames me for his alcoholism.
8. STDs? Not unless you count these painful yeast infections I've been getting for the last 6 mos.
9. No Abuse
10. No Suicide attempts
11.Lesbian/Gay issues? No (although he would really like me to be bisexual)

posted March 11, 2000 05:33 PM            

I am trying to plan my future. I cannot rely on getting married again, though I do love belonging to someone. I am going back to college next year. (For a second degree)

I am not giving up yet on my marriage but in this cast the only way to get him back is to let him go.

No STD, or anything like that.

posted March 13, 2000 10:26 AM            

personal
1- 1 child
2- I have physical custody
3- no other children
4- no Counseling !!
5- i'm using sleeping pills only since discovery. Usually not a problem for me!
6-Mid-Life crisis is definitely involved, he's asking himself all sorts of things, doubting is achievments thus far.Weird!
7- no alcool
8- no std
9- no
10- no
11- no
12- Yes the ridiculous fact that he's 39 (a young looking 39) and she's 22 leaving at her parents and she's his assistant at work. It started very innocently as being friends!!!

[This message has been edited by Anne T (edited March 13, 2000).]

posted March 23, 2000 09:02 PM            

OPTIONAL
1. One child (boy, age 11)
2. We are together
3. OC's are children of OW's marriage
4. In counseling - was alone at first, then he offered to try again. Sort of back against the wall he is in counseling w/me.
5. Medication - Rosary. Am I the only one here using this?
6. Yes, his midlife crisis, though he would deny that is what he is experiencing
7. No
8. No
9. Verbal, emotional. {The opposite of love isn't hate; it's indifference. Eli Weisel]
10. Planned to look accidental but not carried out.
11. No
12. Nothing else. Thanks again.
Venus

posted March 24, 2000 09:54 PM            

I am female.
I am 28 (H 30)
I am the betrayer
Married 8 years May, lived together 3 years before marriage. Known each other since 4 grade.
I first had my affair in Aug of 1997. We rekindled in Oct. it lasted for 6 months. Wife and H found out, rekindled relationship Jan. 2000.
It was both an emotional and physical affair.
No plan.
We are only living together. There is no relationship here.
OM is a divorced single man with 2 children.
He is a friend(old college buddy of H)
Divorce has been cussed and discussed.
No prinicpals being followed yet
Been here a couple of weeks
We have 5 great kids. They are 10, 8.5,6,5,4.
No meds but probably should.