posted December 29, 2000 08:34 PM            

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People of the Forum:
Roll Call Index…..OneGoing…..12/29/2000 ......(alphabetized listing)
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Profiles…..NSR…..8/6/2000 ......(until the 'system' Profile is fixed)
ROLL CALL(Pregnancy/Child forum)…..happy_girl…..1/9/2001
Roll Call(General)…..NSR…..2/12/2000
E-mail Exchange…..NSR…..9/21/2000
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"New" E-Mail Exchange…..Bozos_Deb…..1/31/2000
email exchange(old)…..not again….6/1/1999
Roll call: who are we?(old)…..facing choices…..8/9/1999
How about creating a directory?…..peppermint…..3/1/2000
Background of Your Situation...(Roll Call for Divorcing/Divorced forum) …..Sheba…..3/30/2000
Check in and tell…..Bozos_ Deb…..4/12/2000
Updates, post your updates here.…..Bozos_ Deb…..5/31/2000

References:
General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)…..OneGoing….12/29/2000
Forum Changes…..OneGoing….12/29/2000
Acronyms, Smilies, UBB Codes …..OneGoing….12/29/2000
"Snoop Tricks for Betrayed Spouses"…..NotQuiteOverIt…..2/4/2000
Other Useful Sites…..OneGoing…..12/29/2000

Books/Book Reviews/Comments:
Books…..OneGoing….12/29/2000
Private Lies…..mickey65….9/7/1999
Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus…..Hummingbird….12/16/1999
Readers of "Love Must be Tough" - Please Reply…..Roll Me Away….12/1/1999
'After the Affair' by Janis Abrahms Spring…..loving hubby….2/13/2000
"Torn Asunder"…..LadyK….4/17/2000

General:
some things to remember…..HGBrawner…..11/19/1998
Some suggestions....books and other "stuff"...from an old-timer…..HGBrawner…..8/12/1999
MB principles…..Chris (CA123)…..9/8/1999
Suse Pontificates…..suse…..12/9/1999
ALL MIGHT FIND INTERESTING!!!…..avance…..2/3/2000
What is the relationship like between a WS and the OP? What everyone should know... …..Genie29…..3/4/2000
Help for betrayers who want to stop, but can't... …..BrokenButNotCrushed…..3/30/2000
lostva help me…..tootrusting/lostva…..5/19/2000
Just what IS a happy, healthy marriage?…..TruthSeeker…..6/14/2000
The Three Myths that pervade society!…..Sheba…..9/7/2000
What Changed My Mind…..justhere…..11/13/2000
What you've learned from marriage..…..Kayleigh…..11/18/2000
Who is this person I married?…..HarryHat…..12/5/2000
yes,THIS STUFF DOES WORK!…..alias…..1/31/2001
Request/advice for newbies…..Dazed and Confused…..4/13/2001
Never tire from doing what you KNOW is right…..Sir Hurts Alot…..4/24/2001
recovery thoughts for newbies, including Isb…..Jenny…..4/24/2001
The difference between the Fog and Love…..Redon…..6/20/2001

Emotional Needs:
Emotional needs vs. "wants"…..HGBrawner…..3/4/2000
EN: Recreational companionship…..airheart…..3/15/2000
love workbook (teaching HNHN)…..lizam…..1/12/2000
Gary Chapman's Love Languages…..SueB…..4/27/2000
EN Questionaire…..Brent…..3/27/2001

Reduce/Eliminate Love Busters:
Please remind me why I'm still trying…Faithfully/trustntruth….8/16/1999
PLEASE "LISTEN" For everyone READ…camjon….12/22/1999
Using a "filter" to not LB…..scanman…..1/20/2000
How to say my feelings without it being a LB…..Lora/trustntruth…..4/10/2000
ANGER Management…..weep…..10/6/2000
Letter to OW…..LearningLife…..2/27/2001
EN Questionaire…..Brent…..3/27/2001

Before/After Discovery-Day(D-Day):
Changing the images!…wasstubborn….5/27/1999
What lying betrayers have said....…Sweetpea….9/15/1999
50 signs your spouse is having an affair (All found on this board)…Triumph2….2/23/2000
A competent well thought out response please…john meade….5/10/2000
2Sad...this is REALLY GOOD!(Betrayer's decisions)…lighthouse….5/16/2000
What I've learned (very long)…..Beerman2…..6/17/2000
About hope, trust and happiness…..HGBrawner…..2/24/2001
What I have learned since d-day.…..OneDay…..4/19/2001

Legal Support:
Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search site…..NSR…..(many)
USLaw.com…..LMS(Tired Lady)…..4/14/2000

Children:
Cute Things our Kids Did or Said - Let's smile today.…..Essyboo…..2/24/2000
what do you tell the kids when you get tough??…..Claudia103…..3/7/2000
If you think infidelity doesn't affect the kids....…..wasstubborn…..3/10/2000
Should I tell the kids the truth???…..Keridwen7…..3/16/2000
How "healthy" is it to stay married for the kids?…..Crushed…..4/13/2000
Horrible situation, please pray.…..-…..5/18/2000
recommendations from child Psych.…..-…..6/7/2000
FYI: Article on divorce and children...…..SoTired2000…..10/6/2000
Question list for Gem…..cdcollins…..3/12/2001

Medication/Stress/Depression:
Medication has negative effects…..Suzy Q…..9/14/1999
Medication for depression/anxiety Please give info…..Pahakissa1…..11/29/1999
K - anxiety, OCD and marriages…..Francis…..12/3/1999
Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Marrriages (1)…..Francis…..12/30/1999
Cognitive Behavior Therapy in Marriages 2…..Francis…..12/30/1999
Five Steps To An Almost Stress-Free Life By Zig Ziglar…..hopefull_1…..3/7/2000
TS, DT, KAM and anyone else who can use this....(Depression)…..Francis…..3/8/2000
Antidepressant Remeron Any one on this?????…..bc…..4/10/2000
Paxil Withdrawl…..Triumph2…..5/22/2000
Has anyone tried Wellbutrin?…..wings…..6/20/2000
Prozac?........…..momma…..6/23/2000

STDs:
Affair and STD…..judee4u…..3/2/2000
Is it wrong to ask Spouse to be tested for STDs?…..Tulip…..3/3/2000
STD Alert…..weirded out…..3/15/2000
Questions about STDs......Anybody ?…..CJB80…..3/15/2000
STD's What should I look for…..Reborn…..8/28/2000

Counseling:
Will Counseling Help?…..mickey65…..9/7/1999
Question for K (or anyone that knows : ) )…..Susan/K…..2/24/2000
Counselling…..wasstubborn…..3/16/2000
Christian Counseling…..NSR…..3/25/2000
Finding a counselor???…..teddy bear/K…..4/18/2000
looking for a counselor…..zorweb/K…..5/11/2001

Plan A:
TODAY I LOST IT!!!…..ThisAlex/Genie29…..12/5/1999
Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)…..NSR…..6/10/1999
Question for Plan A Veterans…..lostva/K to quandry…..2/2/2000
Plan A.What's the amount of time? Help!!!…..w.g.up.h…..2/2/2000
When is enough enough ?…..Bozos_ Deb…..2/4/2000...(related thread)
To, Sir Hurts Alot…..TomH…..4/19/2000
Is Plan A just a big act?…..kancan…..5/7/2000
Plan A is Power!…..az allison…..7/31/2000
Plan A versus Doormat …..Everhopeful…..8/10/2000
Question for the MB Veterans(Honesty) - Let's Agree to Disagree Here…..Carolina Belle…..8/22/2000
Length of time for Plan A.....let's have a discussion!…..mthrrhbard…..1/6/2001
The Misapplication of Plan A…..Distressed…..2/27/2001

Plan B:
Plan B - 101 (2nd ed.)…..NSR…..6/10/2000
2 year time frame?…..already divorced…..1/22/2000
Do WS's Ever REALLY Come Back after plan B, or is that just in the book?…..Bernzini…..8/11/2000
Plan B isn't for Wimps!…..Resilient…..9/9/2000
Plan B - 201…..NSR…..9/29/2000

Withdrawal from OP:
Calling all betrayers: stories of withdrawal-how long? How bad?…..Sad4Now…..8/17/1999
For Schizzo: a reply to your question(When WS Confesses)…..BrokenButNotCrushed…..3/18/2000
Withdrawl Support...."THE LIST"…..NoMas…..5/11/2000
A testimonial about "no contact"…..rockaway…..1/20/2001
Why I think the WS should quit their job if they work with the OP…..new_beginning…..4/22/2001

Recovery:
All your best reasons for ending contact with OM/OW?…..2 4 life…..4/25/1999
How to rebuild my spouse's trust?…..redman…..8/23/1999
How do you deal with "TRIGGERS?"…..NoTrust…..9/7/1999
Can I forgive?????…..indy032…..1/31/2000
How do you define "recovery"?…..2sad4words…..2/10/2000
For those who may need a little inspiration... almost 1 yr. and counting…..Genie29…..2/25/2000
Truths I learned through my spouse's affair...…..BrokenButNotCrushed…..3/12/2000
Things my husband did to rebuild trust…..HGBrawner…..3/17/2000
Making New Memories…..HGBrawner…..3/25/2000
When Triggers Stop Being Triggers…..wasstubborn…..3/26/2000
on knowing the "truth" …..loveWASblind=lWb/popeye…..5/9/2000
The apology letter from my husband…..Crushed…..5/18/2000
An amazing breakthrough!…..lostva…..5/23/2000
Where is the beaming face icon???…..schizzo…..5/24/2000
Forgiveness.....…..just_me…..6/5/2000
Second year in recovery…..Kat1…..6/26/2000

Success Stories:
Sadness,Pain,Regret, Is it worth Reconciliation?…..Paul Moyers…..9/29/1999
Two years today....I remember when…..HGBrawner…..2/24/2000
Update....we need encouragement and advice…..lostva…..2/28/1999
A good news story…..hanora…..3/9/2000
A story of hope... How I survived my spouse's unfaithfulness…..BrokenButNotCrushed…..3/9/2000
The sunny side of the street...,a conversation that brought much closure…..mthrrhbard…..5/9/2000
Successful reunion after affair?…..kuuipo…..5/11/2000
An amazing breakthrough!…..lostva…..5/23/2000
Where is the beaming face icon??? Most likely a long update.…..schizzo…..5/24/2000
From the D/D forum to Recovery...…..Lor (Lor)…..5/26/2000
hi all, update....…..mercy…..5/28/2000
She put the wedding ring back on - it does happen…..SamH…..5/30/2000
Update and words of thanks to all…..InShock…..10/11/2000
3 Years.........Success Story!…..Almost Happy…..1/17/2001
MB Success------3 years later with Thanks!!…..Nerlycrzy…..1/18/2001
Winners and Losers…..Distressed…..4/12/2001
Marriage Builders Works. I'm Proof…..kalote…..4/24/2001
Leilana's Success Story…..Leilana(scroll down)…..5/6/2001

Separation: and Divorce:
To the wafflers...Divorce is NOT an Option!…..Pilot's wife…..10/31/1999
Oooooh!! A Place to Call Home... …..Sheba…..3/29/2000
Divorce Related Web Sites…..lonelymom…..5/11/2000
Time Mag. Sept 25 - What Divorce does to kids…..weirded out…..9/19/2000

Abuse: (Various)
Verbal Abuse…..JanW…..3/1/1999
H is an alcoholic and some on Alcoholic's board say to not put up with affair now what?…..bc…..6/7/2000
Help for betrayers/abusers…..TheStudent…..10/14/2000
Therapist says H deals with his Alcoholism, or there is no chance for getting out of…..burnedspouse…..1/3/2001
Verbal Abuse - How Much, How Handled?…..Sisyphus…..1/30/2001
Verbal Abuse - Definition Inviting Comment…..Sisyphus…..1/31/2001
Anyone out there dealing with substance abuse as well as affair?…..LetSTry…..2/15/2001
Question for Kenneth-Abuse vs. bipolar disorder…..StillHers…..2/19/2001
Overcoming a Controlling Husband…..Leighann…..3/6/2001
Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life…..FaithfulWife…..5/3/2001
What is verbal abuse?…..roger…..5/25/2001
Can someone help me understand alcoholism?…..gsd…..5/25/2001
A Poll You Wouldn’t Want To Be a Part Of - Were You Ever Sexually Abused…..Nyneve…..6/20/2001
The Stories You Have Created…..Desertrose7…..6/25/2001
Nyneve. . and anyone who responded to her poll…..bitsy…..6/30/1999
Anyone else dealing w/childhood abuse issues in recovery?…..mynewme…..9/8/2001
Do you think affairs are as bad as physical abuse?…..Persevering…..10/1/2001

Plan A/B over... new beginnings:
There is life after divorce!…..RWD…..3/12/2000
A settlement finally -- divorce pending.…..Animac/ZAPFT…..4/19/2000
When does Plan B end?... (long)…..NSR…..7/29/2000

Inspirational Messages:
For all of you - Do it Anyway by Mother Theresa…..Saskia…..10/6/1999
Friends... Take Time…..NSR…..11/18/1999
Friends... Believe in Yourself…..NSR…11/22/1999
Thanksgiving Gift to ALL My Friends!!!!…..Roll Me Away…11/27/1999
Something for everyone, especially the newbies…..Empty Shell….12/2/1999
This made me feel good.....…..lostva…..12/4/1999
God's Mercy…..Hope Hope Hope…..12/4/1999
Friends... The Wings of Faith…..NSR…..12/8/1999
Faith…..Chris (CA123)…..1/25/2000
Instructions for Life…..sidney…..1/26/2000
Just wanted to share a thought…..Viki…..1/31/2000
Please all read ... Lessons In Life…..jendan69…..2/4/2000
I sent you a message, a helicopter and a boat....…..Guard…..3/14/2000
Friends... Live Each Day to the Fullest…..NSR…..3/22/2000
For Single Dads…..NewMan…..4/11/2000
Friends... The Road of Life.…..NSR…..4/13/2000
Reluctantly... I'm here…..NSR/Keridwen7…..4/18/2000
I ran into a stranger...…..ThisAlex…..5/10/2000
some words to ponder...…..beth28…..5/17/2000
The Art of Marriage…..pondvj…..5/24/2000
something worth reading…..falsely accused…..5/25/2000
Encouragement: Sometimes you have to be a mule…..SKM…..4/12/2001

Inspirational Stories/Songs/Poems/Faith:
Forum for Power of a Praying Wife is up & running, Thanks Steve…..Lor (Lor)…..11/18/1999... and...
Women's Bible Study…..Lor (Lor)…..11/18/1999
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GOOD NEWS.... wisdom I received from an old married couple…..LaurieC…..2/4/1999
serenade and flowers...…..Kat1…..5/26/1999
Story of Forgiving - For everyone…..Liz Smith(POGP)…..11/21/1999
...never that far..…..NSR(Christmas)…..12/12/1999
Saints…..NSR…..1/15/2000
YOU'VE GOT A FRIEND... …..ThisAlex…..1/29/2000
IMPORTANT…..soulloss(DESIDERATA)/WilliamJ(IF)…..2/12/2000
Two stories for wayward spouses with children.…..hopefull_1…..2/26/2000
WELL WORTH READING.....even if it is a bit long…..azhootie…..3/6/2000
GOD IS ABLE TO HEAL THE PAIN OF DIVORCE…..azhootie…..3/17/2000
The gift…..(Patient Love)/NSR…..3/17/2000
Dear God…..LadyK…..3/17/2000
His Wife, Her Husband.. here is another...…..mercy…..4/7/2000
A Great Poem for all!!!!!!!…..bighope…..4/12/2000
Prayer...Feelings of Guilt and Shame…..NSR…..4/13/2000
The Story of Life/Very Profound!! Must Read…..Tyra…..5/9/2000
May have read this before, but it is pretty good.…..Paul Moyers…..5/15/2000
...Between Wakefulness and Dreams - Poem(same as above)…..Stonehenge…..5/20/2000
A Prayer for Angels…..buffy…..5/31/2000
A Little More Inspiration for the Weekend …..lonelymom…..6/2/2000
My Gift To All Of You-Chicken Soup For The Soul…..heartache…..6/13/2000
FA: I found my bible...…..K…..7/21/2000
interesting link…..hopefull_1…..7/23/2000
MB Concepts in Christian Scripture…..NSR…..8/26/2000
Life's Emergency Phone Numbers…..Sweetpea…..9/27/2000
Something worth reading....…..Butterfly…..10/10/2000
For Christians - Re: Forgiveness…..SKM…..1/17/2001
Hypocrisy in the first degree - help me Catholics?…..worthatry…..4/15/2001
Bible Verse = Forgiveness…..ZZZ4991…..5/4/2001
What the early Church said about conditions for divorce…..SpiritofHope…..5/9/2001
What faith are you? quiz...…..TruthSeeker…..5/14/2001
faith as related to H/W relation, etc.…..gobyfish…..5/20/2001

Ongoing Inspirationals:
Inspiration…..NSR…..5/23/2000

Quotes:
Famous quotes from betraying spouses…..Chris (CA123)…..5/18/1999
What YOUR husband told me......…..QueenofFools…..3/20/2000

Plan A Questions - Encouragement Needed …..NSR…..2/2/2000
Whoever is attempting the Plan A(betrayed or wayward)...should understand that *THEIR* spouse(wayward or betrayed) defines what is a Love Buster!

PASSION revisited …..jamie-lee…..2/2/2000
EXCUSES ARE BORN TO KILL RESPONSIBILITY

He came ALL the way back!!!…..Troublec…..2/26/2000
Nothing destroys a romantic relationship more quickly than for a person to beg for mercy...by Troublec
The past is the past; however, we cannot change what we do not acknowledge....by Fiancee

Need advice--why try anymore?…..jamie-lee…..3/16/2000
If you don't have an afair with your wife(spouse) someone else will...by Getting_Better

Inspirational Quote…..LadyK…..4/6/2000
Fears over tomorrow and regrets over yesterday are twin thieves that rob us of the moment...by LadyK

Polls:
Poll: What Methods Would Decrease Adultery?…..Fingers Crossed…..1/25/2000
POLL QUESTION(co-worker or not)…..quandry….1/27/2000
Poll - do you react more to your S's failures than you did before; is it insecurity?…..schizzo…. 2/2/2000
Poll-Songs to stay away from…..beth28…..2/10/2000
Poll-Songs that give you strength…..beth28…..2/10/2000
Positive thoughts poll…..beth28…..3/9/2000
Poll for betrayed with angry spouses…..Nellie1…..3/13/2000
A Fun Poll: What is something you have Always wanted to do?…..Caterpillar…..3/15/2000
EN survey for us MB posters…..2sad4words…..3/15/2000
Poll: What should we "betrayed" call ourselves?…..NSR…..3/17/2000

To Lighten the Mood: What is the *most* romantic thing your spouse has done for you?…..Caterpillar…..3/21/2000

Fun/Funny/Entertaining:
How to restore/destroy a marriage (fun)…..Animac/vmv…..8/5/1999
Men are from mars, women are from....HUMOR…..Sir Hurts Alot…..10/11/1999
These Atty's are getting on my NERVES!…..ceecee…..12/10/1999
Relationship Education For Men (humor)…..Heartpain…..1/20/2000
Relationship Education For Women (humor)..Heartpain…..1/20/2000
47 Facts About Women (humor)…..Heartpain…..1/20/2000
Three wishes (humor)…..Sweetpea…..1/20/2000
Joke Thread…..Keosha…..2/28/2000
interesting theory... on the subject of religion...…..soulloss…..3/4/2000
Some "male-bashing-humor"…..NoMas…..4/5/2000
What Planet are my Counselors from?…..wasstubborn/(NSR page 2)…..4/6/2000
It's A Name Game -- and I'm Dorkey Hamsterhiney!!…..Butterfly…..4/19/2000
Bit o' humor…..Chris (CA123)…..4/24/2000
For the Guys!! (But I LOL'd too!!)…..Sheba…..5/2/2000
A Little Light Humor for all of Us!!!!!!!…..MusicMan…..5/11/2000
A bit of much needed comic relief....…..Keridwen7…..5/16/2000
Infidelity Limerick Challenge!!…..2sad4words…..5/18/2000

Miscellaneous:
Are women less forgiving than men?…..Essyboo…..11/11/1999
Not all OP are pieces of trash…..new_beginning…..2/13/2000
The forum cycles with Giver & Taker…..NSR…..3/25/2000
Character, Courage, and Conscience…..Troublec…..4/6/2000
Need a Psychology Major here, and please hurry(MMPI-2 Test)…..trustntruth…..4/20/2000
SO MUCH HATE IN MB!!!…..ThisAlex…..4/25/2000
I don't believe this works - sorry…..energizer_bunny…..8/28/2000
Vasectomy?…..Thronx…..10/31/2000
Equality in Marriage…..711…..2/26/2001
To Be or Not to Be -- Parents???…..Hawthorne…..3/21/2001

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Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!