posted December 29, 2000 08:35 PM            

This list represents a set of books NOT written by the Harley's... but have been read by and recommended by one or more members of the forum. It has just recently been put into categories and alphabetized within category by "title".

Any more recommendations/comments are always welcome...

Suggestions for new categories, books, etc. also welcome...

Contact me at onegoing@hotmail.com

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Infidelity:

1. Affair-Proof Your Marriage : Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair by Lana Staheli
   
2. After the Affair : Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms, Phd
   
3. Dumped!: A Survival Guide for the Woman Who's Been Left by the Man She Loved by Sally Warren, Andrew Thompson (Contributor)
   
4. Infidelity : A Survival Guide by Don-David, Phd. Lusterman
   
5. Men Who Can't Be Faithful by Carol Botwin
   
6. Private Lies : Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy by Frank Pittman
   
7. Straight Talk About Betrayal: A Self-Help Guide for Couples Donna R. Bellafiore
   
8. Surviving Infidelity : Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain by Rona Subotnik, Gloria Harris
   
9. Torn Asunder : Recovering from Extramarital Affairs by Dave Carder, Duncan Jaenicke, David A. Seamands
   
10. When Your Lover Is a Liar : Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal by Susan Forward, Donna Frazier
    

1. Case Against Divorce by Diane Medved
   
2. Divorce Busting : A Revolutionary and Rapid Program for Staying Together by Michele Weiner-Davis
   
3. Hope for the Separated : Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed by Gary D. Chapman
   
4. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail : And How You Can Make Yours Last by John Gottman, Nan Silver (Contributor)
   

1. But... What About Me! (How It Feels To Be a Kid in Divorce) 2nd Edition by Bonnie Doss, Joyce Spindle
   
2. The Divorce Express by Paula Danziger
   
3. How It Feels When Parents Divorce by Jill Krementz
   
4. It's Not the End of the World by Judy Blume
   
5. It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear : A Read-Together Book for Parents & Young Children During Divorce by Vicki Lansky
   

1. Back from Betrayal : Recovering from His Affairs by Jennifer Schneider
   
2. Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud, Dr John Townsend
   
3. The Dance of Deception : A Guide to Authenticity & Truth-Telling in Women's Relationships by Harriet G. Lerner
   
4. Distant Partner : How to Tear Down Emotional Walls and Communicate With Your Husband by Les Carter
   
5. Fighting for Your Marriage : Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg, Dean S. Edell
   
6. First Aid for a Wounded Marriage by Marilyn Phillipps
   
7. For Better or for Best by Gary Smalley
   
8. The Forgiving Marriage : Resolving Anger and Resentment and Rediscovering Each Other by Paul W. Dr. Coleman
   
9. Getting Back Together : How to Create a New Loving Relationship With Your Old Partner and Make It Last by Bettie Youngs Bilicki (Contributor), Masa Goetz
   
10. Going the Distance : Finding and Keeping Lifelong Love by David L. Geisinger (Contributor), Lonnie Garfield Barbach
    
11. The Heart of Commitment by Gary D. Chapman
    
12. Hope for the Separated : Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed by Scott Stanley
    
13. How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together by Susan Page
    
14. How to Get Your Lover Back by Blase Harris
    
15. A Lasting Promise : A Christian Guide to Fighting for Your Marriage by Scott Stanley, Daniel W. Trathen, B. Milton Bryan
    
16. Love Is a Decision by Gary Smalley, John T. Trent
    
17. Love Must Be Tough : Proven Hope for Families in Crisis by James C. Dobson
    
18. Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley
    
19. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus : A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships by John Gray
    
20. Picking Up the Pieces by Clyde Colvin Besson
    
21. Rebuilding : When Your Relationship Ends by Bruce Fisher
    
22. Rebuilding Your Broken World/With Study Guide by Gordon MacDonald
    
23. Relationship Rescue : A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your Partner by Philip C. McGraw
    
24. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver
    
25. The Solo Partner : Repairing Your Relationship on Your Own by Phil Deluca
    
26. We Can Work It Out : How to Solve Conflicts, Save Your Marriage, and Strengthen Your Love for Each Other by Clifford I. Notarius, Howard J. Markman
    
27. When a Mate Wants Out : Secrets for Saving a Marriage by Jim Conway, Sally Conway
    
28. Winning Your Husband Back : Before It's Too Late by Gary Smalley, Greg Smalley
    
29. Winning Your Wife Back Before It's Too Late : A Game Plan for Reconciling Your Marriage by Gary Smalley, Greg Smalley, Deborah Smalley
    

1. Do Yourself a Favor : Love Your Wife by H. Page Williams
   
2. The Five Love Languages : How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
   
3. Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix
   
4. The Heart of Commitment by Scott Stanley
   
5. In the Meantime : Finding Yourself and the Love You Want by Iyanla Vanzant
   
6. Keeping the Love You Find : A Guide for Singles by Harville Hendrix
   
7. Learning to Live With the Love of Your Life : And Loving It! by by Neil Clark Warren
   
8. Love Is a Decision by Gary Smalley, John T. Trent
   
9. Love Life for Every Married Couple by Ed. Wheat, M.D.
   
10. Loving Choices : A Growing Experience by Bruce Fisher, Nina Hart
    
11. Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley
    
12. Passages of Marriage by Frank Minirth, Mary Alice Minirth, Brian Newman
    

1. A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau
   
2. Light His Fire : How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love by Ellen Kreidman
   
3. Passionate Marriage : Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships by David Schnarch
   
4. Sex Begins in the Kitchen : Because Love Is an All-Day Affair by Kevin Leman
   
5. What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Men by Patrick M. Morley
   
6. What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women by James C. Dobson
   

1. Experiencing God Day by Day : A Devotional and Journal by Henry T. Blackaby
   
2. Holding on to Heaven : While Your Husband Goes Through Hell by Neal Connie
   
3. The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian, Michael Omartian
   
4. Streams in the Desert : 366 Daily Devotional Readings by L. B. Cowman
   
5. Touchpoints : God's Answers for Your Daily Needs ...Tyndale House Pub
   
6. Way of the Cross by Roy Hession
   
7. What Would Buddha Do? : 101 Answers to Life's Daily Dilemmas by Franz Aubrey Metcalf
   

1. Common Sense Parenting : A Proven Step-By-Step Guide for Raising Responsible Kids and Creating Happy Families by Raymond V. Burke, Ronald W. Herron, Father Flanagan's Boys' Home, Ray Burke Ph. D.
   
2. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families : Building a Beautiful Family Culture in a Turbulent World by Stephen R. Covey, Sandra Merrill Covey
   
3. Successful Family Ties by Ron Ball
   
4. The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children : Parenting from the Heart by Steven W. Vannoy
   

1. The Art of Forgiving : When You Need to Forgive and Don't Know How by Lewis B. Smedes
   
2. Forgive and Forget : Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve by Lewis B. Smedes
   
3. The Choosing to Forgive Workbook by Les Carter, Frank Minirth
   

1. Anger : How to Live With and Without It by Albert Ellis
   
2. Angry All the Time : An Emergency Guide to Anger Control by Ron Potter-Efron, Ronald T. Potter-Efron
   
3. Getting the Best of Your Anger by Les Carter
   

1. Codependent No More : How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
   
2. The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
   
3. Women Who Love Too Much : When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change by John Amodeo, Charles L. Whitfield
   

1. Out of the Shadows : Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick J. Carnes
   
2. Don't Call It Love : Recovery from Sexual Addiction by by Patrick J. Carnes Ph.D.
   
3. Love and Betrayal by John Amodeo, Charles L. Whitfield
   
4. False Intimacy : Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction by Harry W. Schaumburg, Harry W. Shaumburg
   
5. Living With Your Husband's Secret Wars by Marsha Means
   
6. Menšs Secret Wars by Patrick A. Means
   
7. Back from Betrayal : Recovering from His Affairs by Jennifer Schneider
   
8. Bold Love by Dr. Dan B. Allender, Dr. Tremper Longman III, Dan B. Allender, Tremper Longman
   
9. Sex Lies and Forgiveness : Couples Speaking Out on Healing from Sex Addiction by Jennifer P. Schneider, Burt Schneider
   
10. The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Dan B. Allender, Larry Crabb
    

1. A Guide to Rational Living by Melvin Powers
   
2. If Success Is a Game, These Are the Rules : Ten Rules for a Fulfilling Career and Life by Cherie Carter, Ph.D. Scott
   
3. Men in Midlife Crisis by Jim Conway
   
4. Never Be Lied to Again : How to Get the Truth in 5 Minutes or Less in Any Conversation or Situation by David J. Lieberman
   
5. Women in Midlife Crisis by Jim Conway, Sally Conway
   
6. Your Husband's Mid-Life Crisis by Sally Conway
   

1. Annulment : Your Chance to Remarry Within the Catholic Church by Joseph P. Zwack
   
2. With Open Arms : Catholics, Divorce, & Remarriage by John Hosie
   

1. The Lucifer Principle : A Scientific Expedition into the Forces of History by Howard K. Bloom
   
2. Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay : A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
   
3. What If I Married the Wrong Person? by Richard Matteson, Janis Long Harris
   

posted June 19, 2001 08:30 PM            

Relationship Cure
by John Gottman