posted January 20, 2000 11:33 AM            

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I received some excellent advice from my therapist the other day that I want to share with everyone. In using Plan A, I am "Using anger as my friend" which is in another post of mine. I am also using a filter before I speak. I ask myself three questions: 1) Is it true? 2) Is it kind? 3) Is it necessary? If I can not answer yes to all three questions, I say nothing. Using this filter and using anger as my friend has helped me a great deal in committing zero LBs, so I hope that others read this and can get something from it. Right now, I think that my wife is waiting to see if my behavior is consistent. She has been "warming up" to me though, and that just gives me more encouragement to show her love and kindness and understanding. I hope this helps someone else.

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posted January 20, 2000 06:14 PM            

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scanman,

Excellent! I'll have to use this in my Plan A replies.

Thanks...

Jim

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posted January 22, 2000 08:33 AM            

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I have been a firm believer in engaging the filter between my brain and my mouth...

Excellent advice...

Bill

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posted January 24, 2000 12:46 PM            

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Easier said then done. But it's a skill more people need. Good for you. I am glad to hear it is working for you. Way to go!!

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posted January 25, 2000 04:36 AM            

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Thanks- I'm going to print this and put int on the wall by my computer. Also trying to follow advice on using anger as my friend.

Melissa

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