posted April 23, 2001 11:07 AM            

Thank you for considering me an inspiration! My self-esteem suffered greatly, but most days I feel pretty positive. This has been a result of my own personal recovery and healing and not from my H actively working with me to recover our marriage. In fact, my H never really actively worked with me. He would read my many plans for marital recovery and agree to it (often in writing), but later I found he only went along with the conversations to pacify me and he never fully "worked the plan".

We seem to have harmony and love in our marriage since I stopped working on marital recovery and stopped asking about his disappearances and infidelities.

He does appear to be commited to our 1-year marriage and I count my blessings for that. I am ready to move on, however, with another disappearance or OW - and I've told him as much.

Again, thank you for the wonderful thread!

posted April 23, 2001 05:07 PM            

I visit occasionally from the D/D board... just to see friends who've recovered... always an inspiration to me...

posted April 24, 2001 02:39 PM            

sobelle,
You are welcome. I replied to your last #37 post, although probably without much insight.

new_beginning,
Thanks. I certainly hope you and I become friends. But "recovered" I am definitely not; not even close. I really think one day I (we) will be, but that day is not today or tomorrow or next week. I really should have stood in line for two helpings of patience the day it was being handed out! Glad that you check in here from time to time.

posted April 25, 2001 03:25 PM            

How is everyone else doing?

posted May 15, 2001 02:02 PM            

window,
I am glad that Sing thought this thread might help. Feel free to bring it up, if you need some support. As you can see, I have. Hope things are well with you.

posted May 22, 2001 08:29 AM            

Also one of my very favorite quotes.

quote:

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Never give up. Never, never give up.
~ Winston Churchill

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posted May 23, 2001 11:22 AM            

Thank you! That quote does it for me too! Did you know that Winston Churchill suffered from depression, for decades of his life? I think the quote has even more impact when you try to imagine what his daily challenges must have been like, especially on the days/weeks/months when he was depressed.

As always, it is good to "hear" from you. How are you these days?

BeingPatient,

Here, there are no ignorant questions!

This link should work.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000554.html

Never give up. Never, never give up.
~ Winston Churchill

posted June 04, 2001 03:00 PM            

Oh, the roller-coaster...

How are you?

posted June 07, 2001 04:34 AM            

Trying to make our marriage better
Trying to make us better parents
I'm just TIRED, why does it have to be so HARD?

I don't know how to get my emotional needs through to my husband. I only know that I FEEL like they aren't being met and I'm sad about that. It makes me want to just go do things by myself to make me feel better. Yet I know what I really need is to feel better WITH him.