posted July 17, 2001 05:23 AM            

Zila, thanks for your comment. I noticed your thread about obsessing and could relate to it! I don't know when your DDay was but it has taken me two years to lighten up on the obsessing!

posted August 01, 2001 02:10 PM            

Thanks for asking how I am doing. As you can see, I have not made it to the forum much in the past few weeks. I have been plagued by a BIG down, with periods of explosive anger towards H. I don't know why - maybe the "anniversary effect" as the A was going on at exactly this time last year, maybe I am just empty after all these months of plan A and tired of the important things for me being ignored, maybe I am just plain fed up with all of it.

I think it is time to re-read my own post, perhaps about a dozen times.

How are you doing?

posted August 03, 2001 10:27 PM            

I just read your other post but thought I'd bring this one back to the front. Maybe everytime it's brought back someone NEW will read it and appreciate it as much as I did....

What does OneDay mean? Oneday things will be better? or, just OneDay at a time things GET better? Just wondering. Either way, it sounds like things ARE better.

My husband and I are doing well. We seem to be at a good spot right now....We talk easily and freely about now and about then. And, the pain of the past two years really has faded. (not gone, but, faded)

It sounds like you are headed for a better spot too. Keep us posted.

posted August 05, 2001 04:59 AM            

You had a very good idea of putting this back again. I benefitted so much from it. It gave me LOTS OF HOPE knowing that everything is a process and I don't need to rush recovery.

OneDay,

I've only read a few of your posts and you're truly an inspiration. Going through everything oneday at a time really makes it a good learning experience-if you have the right attitude like what I see in yours.
Keep it up!
I'm inspired,
blu

posted August 07, 2001 11:20 AM            

Thanks for bringing up the post. I, too, hope that someone will find support by reading this post.

To answer your question "What does OneDay mean?" It is part of what I keep repeating to myself and includes both of the meanings you suggested and many more. I picked this name to remind myself that I need to concentrate on doing the best plan A I can one day at a time, that one day things will be better, that one day our M will be recovered, that one day the pain will fade, that one day I will be recovered. It is meant to be a hopeful name, and I can use all the hope I can muster!

bluplanet,

I am glad that this post gives you hope. That was my intention. I am not certain about the inspiration part, but I thank you. I do hope, one day, to be completely recovered and then to legitimately be an "inspiration".

You are right that a good attitude makes a big difference. I think the hardest thing for me is keeping it up, month after month after month. Obviously, I have some improving to do.

I wish you luck and patience in recovery.

runningonfaith,

You are welcome.

In a heated moment, what works best for me is the old "count to ten in your head" advice. I must admit that some days I have to count to ten about a thousand times, but it does actually help. Good luck.

posted August 15, 2001 01:53 AM            

Great username. If you stay true to it, you will start to feeling like you are actually recovering. Hoping for steady recovery for you and much strength.