posted March 20, 2001 12:46 PM            

I have a feeling no-one could answer that for you!

As to TS's remark, yes, concerns for your current GF arise, but not because you are using her. More in the hope that you are not going to hurt her. On the other hand, what are you supposed to do? Sit back and not get involved with someone? I have a feeling that you were very open with your current GF at the beginning and currently are as well. Good luck my friend.

By the way, as I recall, Sisyphus was doomed to roll a boulder eternally, is this the boulder of choice? Dealing with the XW and the final issues? I hope for your GF's sake it is not.

Galatea

posted March 20, 2001 12:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Sisyphus:
If anyone can make any sense of that last post, I invite them to do so.

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posted March 20, 2001 12:59 PM            

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Originally posted by GnomeDePlume:
Really, Sisyphus, it's quite obvious! The hermaphroditic urgencies of anaphylaxis quantize subliminal reactions into ennervation. See?

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Its quite obvious to me as well Gnome. I just wasnt fast enough to whip out my theasaurous and find a more eloquent way to say...ummmmmm....whatever it is you said.

posted March 20, 2001 01:02 PM            

Sisyphus, you ask:

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If anyone can make any sense of that last post, I invite them to do so.

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Okay, I'll bite. I have put an * next to what I think Student means.

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I'm not familiar with that song.

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*Student isn't familiar with that song

Although I am familiar with that song, I wondered what it had to do with what The Student said.

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People like you scare me.

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*Student is afraid of people like you.

You don't scare me as much as confuse me.

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I'm not the only one on this thread who have wondered if the best interests of your GF is anywhere in your brain.

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*Student was not the only one who was concerned with your GF's best interests.

Although I clearly told you that I am in no place to judge you, I was concerned with your stirring the hornets nest... partially because it must "hurt" your spirit and that of your GF.

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There is a particular kind of wasp that parasitizes caterpillars. They inject the caterpillar with it's eggs. The eggs hatch and eat the caterpillar from the inside out. When nothing is left but a wasted shell, the baby wasps emerge, mate, and find another host. In your case, though, I'm not quite sure whom is the wasp and whom is the caterpillar.

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[*Student is using an analogy concerning an insect to describe what she sees in your situation. In this example, the wasp lays an egg inside the caterpillar. The eggs hatch inside the caterpillar and eat it until it's "hollow"... this is nature, and it is cruel. Student wonders if you are the injector, or the injectee.

For my part, I don't see you as either one. Rather, I see you as a very intelligent man who is much more damaged by his prior relationship than he cares to let on.

**Note: I tried to inject a bit of humour here... there needs to be some...

posted March 20, 2001 01:07 PM            

and Sis, I think NB has a point there:

*For my part, I don't see you as either one. Rather, I see you as a very intelligent man who is much more damaged by his prior relationship than he cares to let on*

What does the new GF (or you for that matter) think this relationship is going with you still having so many issues both real and in your mind to deal with in regards to your XW? I hope for both of your sakes you are not
*Building castles way up high" (just the two of us.. sing the song Sis! Let's hear that voice!)

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The only way out is to go through
- Robert Frost

posted March 20, 2001 02:17 PM            

From my experiences from dealing with my x and even prior to that when we were separated, every time I tried to handle "stuff" on my own, it went right into the crapper, as evidenced by my incident last week.

My x did change her work day so she and not om/h will be watching the kids, but at what cost? I severly damaged my chances of having any type of peaceful relationship with my x, whom I will have to deal with for the rest of my life because of my kids and also I damaged my relationship with my son.

While om/h is at least a home wrecker and poor role model for my children, their mother is the same thing and I don't have a problem with them seeing her. As far as I know, om/h isn't a molester. So it is my emotional problem that is getting in way of a somewhat peaceful relationship with x. That is all I am looking for.

If I could only step back and allow things to happen instead of forcing them, I thing I would have less problems.

What I am suggesting is to turn your concerns, title, $$$$, over to another lawyer, let him work on them. Then PLan B your x and work on your relationship with your gf.

posted March 22, 2001 10:56 AM            

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<XWAttorney>,

Back in the beginning of December, your client expressed satisfaction with the 1040 I
had prepared.

Per your request, I have prepared and provided another one, with changes.

I have yet to receive it back, or any of the items I requested; however, I have been providing
items right along.

Are you still representing her?

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I also attached a friendly e-mail of hers (from early-December), the key excerpt is here:

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Hi. I hope this reaches you. The IRS thing is cool. Sorry I haven't sent it in earlier. I had looked at the stuff differently. However, the way you are handling it is fine with me.

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Then I waited a few hours and called her attorney. He said the signed title and some other info I needed were going out to me in the mail today.

posted March 22, 2001 02:15 PM            

I know I'm joining in late to the conversation,but I'm curious. How long did you seperate from exW before getting together with GF? It sounds like you and GF were together only a few months before living togheter? You mentioned Oct and Nov? I may be reading this wrong, so let me know.

Do you think you were on the rebound from ex when you met the GF?

If I were the GF, I'd be extremely uncomfortable right now, no matter how good she's "trying" to handle it.

posted March 22, 2001 02:47 PM            

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Originally posted by DanaB:
I know I'm joining in late to the conversation,but I'm curious. How long did you seperate from exW before getting together with GF?

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Well, XW and I were "separate" in the home since the end of '99, sold it and moved out Mid-June.

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It sounds like you and GF were together only a few months before living togheter? You mentioned Oct and Nov? I may be reading this wrong, so let me know.

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We started communicating in late-Aug, and she moved in during the course of Nov.

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Do you think you were on the rebound from ex when you met the GF?

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Well, the first, instant rebound was with a Brazilian ... who turned out to be a little on the unstable side.

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If I were the GF, I'd be extremely uncomfortable right now, no matter how good she's "trying" to handle it.

Dana

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posted March 22, 2001 03:53 PM            

It may seem to be back on track, but what about the next time? I agree that you should hire someone to take over.

I wasn't going to write more, but I am drawn to this stream and really would like to find out how it all turns out.

One thing you stated:

*Well, the first, instant rebound was with a Brazilian ... who turned out to be a little on the unstable side.*

Lends itself to the thought that this *new GF* is the 2nd rebound. I am glad to see that you agree with Dana that your GF may not be *handling it* as well as she seems to be. And your statement about the rebound lends a little (very little) credence to TS's remark about you *using* your current *GF*.

I wonder, when all the conflict with the XW is over, will you rebound to yet another?