Affection is the expression of care. It symbolizes security, protection,
comfort and approval -- vital ingredients in any relationship. When one spouse
is affectionate toward the other, the following messages are sent:
- You are important to me. I will care for you and protect you.
- I'm concerned about the problems you face and will be there for you when you
A simple hug can say those things. And there are many other ways to show our affection: A
greeting card or an "I love you" note; a bouquet of flowers; holding hands; walks after
dinner; back rubs; phone calls; and conversations with thoughtful and loving expressions.
All of these can effectively communicate affection.
Affection is, for many, the essential cement of a relationship. Without it, many feel
totally alienated. With it, they become emotionally bonded. If you feel terrific when your
spouse is affectionate, and you feel terrible when there is not enough of it, you have the
emotional need for affection.
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