Part 1: Negotiating for Compatibility

1. Why Can't We Just Get Along?
   The Struggle for Compatibility in Marriage

2. The Love Bank
   How Couples Fall In and Out of Love

3. Meet Your Giver and Your Taker
   Why Marital Negotiation Is So Tough

4. The Three States of Marriage
   How the Giver and Taker Can Mess Up Your Mind

5. The Policy of Joint Agreement
   How to Be Thoughtful and Caring When You're Not

6. It's Okay to Make a Deal
   How to Negotiate for Compatibility

Part 2: Learning to Protect

7. Become a Jerk in Five Easy Lessons
   How Love Busters Destroy Compatibility

8. Mine Sweeping
   How to Overcome Angry Outbursts

9. I Want It Done Now!
   How to Overcome Selfish Demands

10. Let Me Ridicule Your Shallow Opinions
    How to Overcome Disrespectful Judgments

Part 3: Learning to Care

11. I Need You!
    What Are the Most Important Emotional Needs?

12. Let's Get Real
    How False Assumptions Create Incompatibility

13. If You Scratch My Back ...
    How to Get Your Spouse to Meet Your Most Important Emotional Needs

14. Why Can't We Just Talk
    How to Meet the Emotional Need for Conversation

15. Is It "Nobody Does It Better" or Is It "Never Gonna Get It"
    How to Meet the Emotional Need for Sexual Fulfillment

16. When You Need Me, I'll Be There
    How to Meet the Emotional Need for Affection

17. You'll Love the One You're With
    ow to Meet the Emotional Need for Recreational Companionship

18. Give and Take Your Way to Compatibility
    How to Resolve Everyday Conflicts with the Policy of Joint Agreement

Appendixes

1. Love Busters Questionnaire
2. Emotional Needs Questionnaire
3. Friends and Enemies of Good Conversation Inventory
4. Strategy to Meet the Need of Conversation
5. Friends and Enemies of Good Conversation Worksheet
6. Sexual Experience Inventory
7. Strategy to Create a Stage of Sexual Experience
8. Sexual Experience Worksheet
9. Sexual Fulfillment Worksheet
10. Affection Inventory
11. Strategy to Meet the Need of Affection
12. Affection Worksheet
13. Recreational Enjoyment Inventory
14. Strategy to Meet the Need of Recreational Relational Companionship
15. Recreational Companionship Worksheet