His Needs, Her Needs is designed to change the course of a marriage.
Using a conversational style, Dr. Harley helps couples understand why their best
intentions are not enough to prevent marital incompatibility. Couples must do
more than want to meet each other's needs--they must actually meet
Ignorance often contributes to a couples failure to care for each other. Men
tend to try to meet needs that they value and women do the same. But their
needs are often very different and they waste effort trying to meet the wrong
The right needs are so strong that when they're not met in marriage, people are
tempted to go outside marriage to satisfy them. But aside of the risk of
affair, important emotional needs should be met for the sake of care itself.
Marriage is a very special relationship. Promises are made to allow a spouse
the exclusive right to meet some of these important needs. When they are unmet,
it is unfair to the spouse who must go through life without ethical
Dr. Harley describes the ten emotional needs of men and women. He helps you
identify which are the most important to you and your spouse, helps you
communicate them to each other, and helps you learn to meet them.
Successful marriages require skill--skill in caring for the one you promised to
cherish throughout life. Good intentions are not enough. His Needs, Her Needs
was written to educate you in the care of your spouse. Once you have learned
it's lessons, your spouse will find you irresistible, a condition that's
essential to a happy and successful marriage. It will also help you eliminate
the major cause of infidelity. (2001, Hardcover - 220 pages)