The Marriage Builders® Weekend

Minneapolis, Minnesota
October 23rd & 24th, 2009
at the Embassy Suites Minneapolis - Airport.
Free shuttle service to the Minneapolis - St. Paul International Airport and the Mall of America (520 stores and several indoor rollercoasters!)

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The Marriage Builders® Weekend provides couples with an opportunity to learn how to fall in love and stay in love. Dr. Harley will lead the workshop himself and introduce to you the basic concepts that have made his solutions to marital problems so successful.

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In Dr. Harley's workshop you will learn:

    What the feeling of love is. How it is created. How it is destroyed.
    How our instincts and habits affect the feeling of love.
    What important emotional needs are, and how you can identify them.
    How to meet each other's most important emotional needs.
    How to protect each other from your destructive predispositions.
    How fair negotiation can help you fall in love and stay in love.

This is not just a's just the beginning!

During this workshop you will identify and promise to meet each other's most important emotional needs. And you will also identify your destructive habits, and promise to overcome them. But this workshop does not leave you with only promises.

After the weekend is over, you will immediately begin Dr. Harley's 12 lesson course, His Needs, Her Needs: Habits for a Lifetime of Passion. This course, based on his best-selling book, is supported by 6 compact disks that enable Dr. Harley to personally show you how to become experts in meeting each other's emotional needs so that you will fall in love and stay in love.

As you complete each lesson in this course, if you experience a problem, Dr. Harley will answer your questions on a private section of the Marriage Builders®Forum that has been designated for those who attend this workshop. And you can also read Dr. Harley's answers to questions asked by hundreds of others who have taken this course.

The success of your marriage depends on your completion of each assignment in this course. So to help you achieve that crucial objective, a Marriage Builders® staff member will monitor your progress every week. Through e-mail, and telephone calls if necessary, we will help keep you both on task. Weekly surveys and monthly questionnaires will help us insure your success.

And if that were not enough, you will also receive Dr. Harley's 12 lesson course, Love Busters: Overcoming Habits that Destroy Passion, which is based on his book, Love Busters, and supported by 6 compact disks. As with the His Needs, Her Needs course, you will have an opportunity to ask Dr. Harley questions on the private section of the Forum for workshop attendees.

There has been impressive, yet disappointing, research reported on the effect of weekend marriage retreats. The results have tended to show that without an effective follow-up program, the weekend retreats can do more harm than good. Without follow-up, couples often experience greater subsequent marital dissatisfaction than those who do not attend. That's because expectations for marital improvement are raised during the weekend marriage retreat, but when destructive habits are not changed weeks later, a couple find themselves feeling more hopeless than ever.

New insight discovered at a weekend retreat will not cause you to fall in love with each other -- only a change of habits will achieve that objective. And it takes weeks of practice to create the habits that will cause you and your spouse to fall in love and stay in love. But Marriage Builders® Weekend can help set you on a course of action that will lead to a change in your habits -- habits that will enable you to meet each other's emotional needs, and habits that will protect each other from your destructive predispositions.

The experience of couples who have attended the Marriage Builders® Weekend, and have completed the assignments in both courses, has been sensational. We are so convinced that your marriage will also be saved by this program, that we offer it to you with a money back guarantee. If you are not satisfied with the results after both of you have attended the Marriage Builders® Weekend and both of you have completed the assignments in our follow-up courses, we will refund your entire registration fee.

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October 23rd
6:30 p.m.-7:00 p.m. Sign-in and late registration
7:00 p.m.-8:15 p.m. What is the Feeling of Love?
The Love Bank
Instincts and Habits
8:15 p.m.-8:30 p.m. Break
8:30 p.m.-9:45 p.m. How to Negotiate Without Making Love Bank Withdrawals
The Giver and the Taker
The Three States of Mind in Marriage
The Policy of Joint Agreement
Four Guidelines for Successful Negotiation
October 24th
8:30 a.m.-9:30 a.m. How to Avoid Love Bank Withdrawals I
Selfish Demands
Disrespectful Judgments
Angry Outbursts
9:30 a.m.-9:45 a.m. Break
9:45 a.m.-10:45 a.m. How to Avoid Love Bank Withdrawals II
Annoying Habits
Independent Behavior
10:45 a.m.-11:00 a.m. Break
11:00 a.m.-12:00 noon How to Make Love Bank Deposits I
Emotional Needs
Intimate Conversation
Recreational Companionship
12:00 noon-12:45 p.m. Lunch (provided)
12:45 p.m.-1:45 p.m. How to Make Love Bank Deposits II
Sexual Fulfillment
The Policy of Undivided Attention
1:45 p.m.-2:00 p.m. Break
2:00 p.m.-3:00 p.m. How to Make Love Bank Deposits III
Honesty and Openness
Physical Attractiveness
Financial Support
Domestic Support
Family Commitment
3:00 p.m.-3:15 p.m. Break
3:15 p.m.-3:45 p.m. Becoming an Expert
3:45 p.m.-4:30 p.m. Q&A

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Seminar Fee

    Individual Registrant: $1645
    Couple Registrants: $1695

Seminar registration fee includes the Fall in Love, Stay in Love seminar, Saturday lunch, and two follow-up courses personally supervised by Dr. Harley and his staff.

FAQ - "Why does the Marriage Builders® Weekend cost so much?"

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Seminar attendees will receive,
  1. His Needs Her Needs: Habits for a Lifetime of Passion (Harley, 2002): an audio series that compliments Dr. Harley's best-selling book, His Needs Her Needs. Twelve audio sessions with Dr. Harley help provide motivation and insight to couples who want to apply the lessons of His Needs Her Needs to their marriage. A copy of His Needs Her Needs and a lesson assignments booklet are included with the compact disc series.
  2. Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Passion (Harley, 2002): a companion audio series to "His Needs Her Needs: Habits for a Lifetime of Passion." Twelve audio sessions with Dr. Harley help the readers of Dr. Harley's book, Love Busters, identify and eliminate selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, annoying habits, independent behavior, and dishonesty. A copy of Love Busters and a lesson assignment booklet are included with the compact disc series.
  3. 5 Steps to Romantic Love (Revell, 2002): a workbook to help couples apply the principles found in the first two books. The contracts, questionnaires, inventories, and worksheets that Dr. Harley has used in his counseling practice are arranged in a logical sequence to help couples follow Dr. Harley's Five Steps.
  4. Fall In Love, Stay In Love (Revell, 2001): a book encapsulating Dr. Harley's three main components for a successful marriage: meeting emotional needs, avoiding Love Busters, and making decisions together.
  5. Surviving an Affair (Revell, 1998): a book Dr. Harley would like you to read even if you are not faced with the tragedy of an affair.
  6. A seminar workbook that includes Dr. Harley's notes, questionnaires, and worksheets.
  7. Access to the private follow-up section of the Marriage Builders® Forum where you can ask Dr. Harley your questions about your weekly assignments and read other couples' questions and his answers to them.

A set of materials will be given to each Individual Registrant or Couple Registrants.

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Wear something comfortable. Dr. Harley should be the only one in the room wearing a tie! There will be no formal events planned, so you don't need to bring anything dressy, unless you and your spouse have planned a special event.

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Lodging and Meals

The Marriage Builders® Weekend will be held at the Embassy Suites Minneapolis - Airport Hotel. You are sure to find it a pleasant place to stay.

To make arrangements for your sleeping room, CLICK HERE or call the Embassy Suites Hotel directly at 952-854-1000.

During the Friday night seminar, a light snack, coffee, tea, and water will be provided. Saturday morning will include a light continental breakfast (fruit juice, fruit, pastries, coffee, tea, and water) and a light lunch at around noon.

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Registration for this weekend is closed.

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