Marriage can last a lifetime if couples apply two rules to their relationships: (1) Meet each other's most important emotional needs and (2) avoid hurting each other. Dr. Harley wrote the international best-seller, His Needs, Her Needs, to help couples learn to identify and meet each other's most important emotional needs. Then, he wrote Love Busters to help couples learn to avoid being the cause of each other's unhappiness.
Now, he has written Five Steps to Romantic Love to help couples apply the principles found in his first two books. The contracts, questionnaires, inventories and worksheets that Dr. Harley has used in his counseling practice are arranged in a logical sequence to help couples follow Dr. Harley's Five Steps:
Follow these Five Steps to Romantic Love and you'll be on the road to having a marriage that is passionate and free of conflict. It's well worth the effort.
Table of Contents
Step 1: Making a Commitment to Build Romantic Love
Agreement to Overcome Love Busters And Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs
Step 2: Identifying Love Busters
Analysis of His Love Busters Questionnaire
Analysis of Her Love Busters Questionnaire
Step 3: Overcoming Love Busters
Overcoming the First Love Buster: Angry Outbursts
Angry Outbursts Inventory
Strategy to Overcome Angry Outbursts
Angry Outbursts Worksheet
Overcoming the Second Love Buster: Disrespectful Judgements
Disrespectful Judgments Inventory
Strategy to Replace Disrespectful Judgments with Respectful Persuasion
Disrespectful Judgements Worksheet
Respectful Persuasion Worksheet
Overcoming the Third Love Buster: Annoying Behavior
Annoying Behavior Inventory: Part 1
Annoying Behavior Inventory: Part 2
Strategy to Overcome Annoying Behavior
Annoying Behavior Worksheet
Overcoming the Fourth Love Buster: Selfish Demands
Selfish Demands Inventory
Strategy to Replace Selfish Demands with Thoughtful Requests
Selfish Demands Worksheet
Thoughtful Requests Worksheet
Overcoming the Fifth Love Buster: Dishonesty
Dishonesty Inventory
Strategy to Overcome Dishonesty
Dishonesty Worksheet
Step 4: Identifying the Most Important Emotional Needs
Analysis of Her Emotional Needs Questionnaire
Analysis of His Emotional Needs Questionnaire
Step 5: Learning to Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs
Need of Affection
Affection Inventory
Strategy to Meet the Need of Affection
Affection Worksheet
Need of Sexual Fulfillment
Sexual Experience Inventory
Strategy to Discover the Four Stages of Sexual Experience
Sexual Experience Worksheet
Sexual Fulfillment Inventory
Strategy to Meet the Need of Sexual Fulfillment
Sexual Fulfillment Worksheet
Need of Conversation
Friends and Enemies of Good Conversation Inventory
Strategy to Meet the Need of Conversation
Friends and Enemies of Good Conversation Worksheet
Need of Recreational Companionship
Recreational Enjoyment Inventory
Strategy to Meet the Need of Recreational Companionship
Recreational Companionship Worksheet
Need of Financial Support
Financial Support Inventory: Needs and Wants Budget
Strategy to Meet the Need of Financial Support
Need of Domestic Support
Domestic Support Inventory
Strategy to Meet the Need of Domestic Support
Domestic Support Worksheet
Need of Family Commitment
Family Commitment Inventory
Strategy to Meet the Need of Family commitment
Family Commitment Worksheet
Quality Family Time Graph
Need of Admiration
Admiration Inventory
Strategy to Meet the Need of Admiration
Admiration Worksheet
Learning to Set Aside Time For Undivided Attention
Time for Undivided Attention Worksheet
Time for Undivided Attention Graph
How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor